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Today’s conversation will be with Mathithia Olangi.

She shares her experience of her failed friendships. And gives us a few tips and advices.

Have you ever been in failed relationships ? Whether it’s with friends or a boyfriend?

How did you deal with them? How did it make you feel?

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Feyi A
Feyi A
1 year ago

I have never gone through a major heartbreak so I can’t say much about it apart from the fact that people who experience this are actually goin through it and I pray he Lord gives them strength to get over it 🙂

Deborah Morsay
Deborah Morsay
1 year ago

My failed relationships were more about family and dating. From that I built so many walls of protection around me that I can’t even say that I ever had a real friendship(except childhood) until I met my husband. It was really hard to let even him in. It took me about 3 years to let all my guards down and let my husband in. With that being said I believe that to experience fulfilling relationships or friendships you need to be able to trust a person enough to let all your guards down. When we talk about relationships or friendship… Read more »

Last edited 1 year ago by Deborah Morsay
Jemima
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Reply to  Deborah Morsay
1 year ago

wow. Thank you so much for sharing!

its very important for us to trust the people we have relationships with.

Gloria Muyingi
Gloria Muyingi
1 year ago

With friendship I had to learn that the moment you have to water yourself down so that you can be accommodating to your ‘friends’ that is the moment you have to let go.
I’ve blocked and stop being very familiar with such people because they tend to make you feel bad about being you.

Also always praying for God to put friendships that edify you and glorify Him is key

Mathithia Olangi
Reply to  Gloria Muyingi
1 year ago

veryyyyyyyy key, well said sis

Phylicia Obame
Phylicia Obame
Reply to  Gloria Muyingi
1 year ago

Love this and completely agree. Sometimes we outgrow a friendship because we begin to want different things and for me it took a while to realize that it’s okay to choose “me” before anyone else.

Last edited 1 year ago by Phylicia Obame
Mathilde OYASASE
1 year ago

It was so edifying🙏🏾 Personally i have never really known relationships that have broken my heart (thank God), but i know so much people who are going through this . I don’t feel legitimate to advise them because i never expérienced this, but i will share with them the think of your sharing!
Merci beaucoup

Jemima
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Reply to  Mathilde OYASASE
1 year ago

I’m happy you’re never experienced a broken heart. I pray it says that way … and I’m happy you can openly say that.

Yess girl ! Please share the link. Appreciate it.

De rien x

Elizabeth Mutamba
Elizabeth Mutamba
1 year ago

Thank you Mathithia for sharing. You spoke a word. I’ve experienced failed relationships both from dating and friendships. I was confused because I felt like I give all my relationships my all. I always come in with pure intentions but they were never appreciated. I realized that I was putting more than I was receiving.

One thing I’ve learned from my failed friendships is that we should treat our friendships like Our dating Relationships. The same way we’re intentional about our dating, we should be intentional about our friendships.

Elizabeth Mutamba
Elizabeth Mutamba
Reply to  Elizabeth Mutamba
1 year ago

One thing I learned from my failed dating relationships was that sometimes I really was the problem (not all the time, SOMETIMES) and I was okay with that. It revealed certain characteristics within me that I didn’t know I had.

And also just coming out from those relationships and understanding that it’s not the end of the world and I’m not a default (lol)

All of these failures come as learning curves and in the end, I’m grateful for the lessons learned

Jemima
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Reply to  Elizabeth Mutamba
1 year ago

Yeaaa I always thought when my relationships ended … that it was the end of the world. But I believe what’s meant to be in your life will always come back.

And if it doesn’t then it wasn’t meant to be. Let’s learn from past experiences to move forward in a more positive way.

Jemima
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Reply to  Elizabeth Mutamba
1 year ago

Yes ! They’re many people who do give in more than they even receive and that’s why many relationships don’t last, whether friendships or dating. It’s very important we give in the same energy to our friends and our dating relationships.

Sharis Atogho
Sharis Atogho
1 year ago

Oh my days! Mathithia PREACH. It is not every friend that should have access to you like that. You chose what you want to share. I hate feeling obligated to share if I do not feel like it, especially when it concerns me primarily. When friends understand boundaries, it’s a lot smooth sailing. I also think friends need to understand that everyone is different. One that is understood too, then you don’t feel the obligation to understand why someone acted the way they did or, try to dictate why they should or should not do something.

Mathithia Olangi
Reply to  Sharis Atogho
1 year ago

setting boundaries is very important especially when it comes to who has access to you. It will avoid a lot of unnecessary drama

Jemima
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Reply to  Sharis Atogho
1 year ago

Very true ! It’s not everyone that should have access to you. It’s not even healthy. I’m glad you could relate.

Feyi A
Feyi A
Reply to  Jemima
1 year ago

This is very true but what happens when that one you’ve given access to is the one who hurt you?

Sharis Atogho
Sharis Atogho
1 year ago

I’m here what’s teaaaaa

Jemima
Admin
1 year ago

Thanks for sharing this with us. Loving it,

Mathithia Olangi
1 year ago

SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Excited to hear your different stories on failed relationships and friendships or the different shipsssssss lets gooooooooooooo

Jemima
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Reply to  Mathithia Olangi
1 year ago

I know right . Let’s gooooo

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